*This is a notes so it may not make anysense to you guys, but it serves as a great reminder for me to remember what I have learnt

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Chapter 1

What is a value?

  • Modern theory by Shalom Schwartz: “Belief about trans-situational goal of varying importance that serve as a guiding principles in the life of a person or group"

  • 6 Key characteristic of values

    • Link with emotion
    • Motivate Action
    • Apply across context
    • Standard for moral judgement
    • Ranked in importance
    • Include trade-off

  • Schwartz’s values survey: people all have these values but varies in importanc

    • Achievement
    • Power
    • Tradition
    • Security
    • Conformity
    • Universalism
    • Benevolence
    • Stimulation
    • Self Direction
    • Hedonism

  • The price of carrying about something: To care about anything, the more difficult and compromise of other things in life

  • Milton Rokeach distinction of values

    • Terminal Values: end goal/ ultimate objective
    • Instrumental values: means towards end

  • Carol Ryff’s six dimension of Psychological well being

    • Autonomy
    • Environmental Mastery
    • Personal Growth
    • Positive relation with others
    • Purpose in life
    • Self Acceptance the hardest one

Chapter 2: Values & Relationship

  • Attachment in relationship
  • compromise in values
  • Changing too much value for a relationship may let you lose who you actually are <It’s counter productive to put love in the top of your values hierachy>
  • People always sent out signal of whom they are

Chapter 3: Where do values come from

  • A combination of 1. us, 2. others
  • Try to figure out which of your values come from others- Margaret mead cultural relatives
  • A high family value society results in corruption- Jonathan Haidt’s Moral foundation theory - Care/harm
    • Fairness/cheating
    • Loyalty/Betrayal
    • Authority/Subversion
    • Sancitity/Degraduate
    • Liberty Oppression

Chapter 4: Identifying your core values

Tools to identify your values

  1. Dessert island exercise
  2. Funeral: What do you want people to say about you
  3. Frustration: What normally sets you off
  4. Ranking and prioritizing

Chapter 5: Changing your values

  • A change in values normally resulted from a big trauma, since it a experience of one values changing
  • PTG post traumatic growth can result in 5 ways
  • improve in relationship with others
    • New possibility in life
    • Improve in personal strength
    • Improve in appreciation in life
    • Spiritual development
  • Also need a active rumination in cognitive reappraisal. Be aware that a social group and culture will very help in this process, and an optimistic person will be more related to openness in experience
  • Debrowski, a psychologist studying PTG after war he found out about
    • Positive disintegration
    • since a drama in life is a destroyer of one ego, a cognitive dissonance is required for changing in values
    • A void is left unfilled, and ew have to positively filled it
  • Leon Festinger, the origin of cognitive dissonace started from a cult
    • group of researcher pretend to be cult believers to study their habits
    • a cult that alien is going to invade the earth, and when the date come no alien appears
    • They believe that they will give up and go home however, they become even more strong believer since they can get rid of alien
    • he explain that since the cult believer have a strong valeus in community in a cult and believe what they do is for a greater good they are not willing to give out their value
    • there is 2 main way to change the trajectory of valeus
      • expectation reality, fuck reality im beliving in my expectation
        • shift in expectation, which is harder to do so since you have to give up your initial values

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